Friday Flashbacks — After Awhile

A rose blooms in Westfir, Oregon

Have you ever had one of those poems that just stuck in your head for like decades. It made so much sense that you quoted it all the time. But, you couldn’t actually remember the whole thing, or who wrote it, but it didn’t matter it just kept floating around in your brain with all the answers to the unanswerable questions. This is a poem I remember from my younger days. I finally looked it up and recalled the author. In case anybody needs this.

After a While

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t always promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
And you learn that you really can endure,
that you really are strong
and you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every good-bye you learn.

Author Veronica Shoffstall

Til next time ~Stay trippy hippies ~JP

2 thoughts on “Friday Flashbacks — After Awhile

  1. Perhaps the idea is to put an end to the “goodbyes” and find someone who is truly forever. “Forever” is a word which is often used too loosely. It means permanence and if we could all find that soulmate, the goodbyes would end and you could learn from something other than fairwells. That being said, specific goodbyes, possibly only once in a lifetime, can be excruciatingly painful and you may never get over loosing that person. If that happens, then you know that person had permanence with you.

    The poem is beautiful and has taught me on this day.

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    1. Glad you learned something new. Although the poem seems to be about love relationships, it always spoke to me more of strength and self worth. My excruciating goodbye came when my father passed away. I learned that “love doesn’t mean leaning” as I learned to stand on my own two feet. I think that’s what I love most about this poem, it can mean so many different things to different people. Thank you for your comment.


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