Fandango has posed another thought provoking question for us this week.
“What is more important to you, doing the right thing or doing things right?”
I’m more of a feeler than a thinker and although I do weigh consequences, I always try to do the right thing. Doing things the “right way” not so much. It is the nature of provocative questions to be matters of opinion. What is right? What is wrong? What is the correct way? What is my way? Is there an only way? I’m one of those people who doesn’t believe in absolutes because complete truth is unknowable.
Overall I am a “do the right thing” person. The “right thing” or the “wrong” thing is determined completely by my conscience and my gut instinct. My Grandmother used to tell me “Your heart is an idiot, your brain will lie to you. When in doubt, trust your gut, because instinct is honest.”
I learned early in life to do things my own way. As a child I was possessed of a very high IQ. This got me special education classes where they would often throw mathematical problems at us and tell us to solve them, just to see where our minds went. Our teachers were exceptional people who could accept the fact that a math problem could often be solved in a dozen different ways. Yeah, it was an awesome way to grow up, but when I changed schools and went to “normal” schools my “normal” teachers had a cow and I nearly flunked basic algebra. Why? Well, I didn’t show my work. I’d been doing the rudimentary problems that class was solving for so long that I just did them in my head. Teachers thought I must be cheating, so I wrote out my work. Then they failed me because “that is not the correct mathematical procedure.” My response of “as long as it gets the correct answer who the heck cares?” got me a week in detention. Ultimately they reversed that grade to a “c” when my Dad went to the principal and calmly explained that you cannot penalize a child for being smarter than her teachers. Yeah, thanks Dad, like that didn’t make me a social pariah.
Let me leave you with a quote from one of my favorite Yoga instructors. “Don’t you dare compare your yoga to mine, it is not about how perfectly you can flow into a pose, it’s about what you learn from the flowing. As for the right way, the wrong way, the only way, they do not exist.” ~Annie P. The Laughing Yogini
Til next time ~Peace ~JPP